M*A*S*H actor and veteran movie star Alan Alda stopped by HuffPost Live on Tuesday and shared some strong opinions on Friday’s tragic killings in Isla Vista. When asked about his strong feminist history, and specifically mass shooter Elliot Rodger’s …
Alan Alda talking about misogyny and nailing it
This man — who is the most wonderful amazing human being on the planet, by the way — skirted very close to dropping some serious fucking knowledge in this video, and I don’t know why he didn’t do it, but I’m going to:
In 1943, when he was seven years old, Alan Alda contracted polio. At the time, the standard treatment for the disease was to immobilize one’s limbs by strapping them to planks, to prevent muscle contractions and deformity. The splints had the unfortunate side effect, however, of causing muscle atrophy due to lack of use. So Alan’s parents instead decided to subject him to a new (and admittedly painful) treatment that had been developed by a nurse named Sister Elizabeth Kenny: extremely hot woolen blankets applied to the limbs, accompanied by a regiment of muscle-stretching.
Sister Elizabeth’s treatment was basically the exact opposite of what the medical establishment (all men at the time, obvs) recommended. And that establishment — when they acknowledged her technique at all — referred to it as a “grievous error and fraught with grave danger.”
But those doctors who were skeptical of her technique had their minds changed when they actually deigned to observe the results in patients. Wow, that’s so odd: it’s almost as if they discounted Sister Kenny’s methods without knowing anything about them save that the person who developed them was a woman. Hmm.
Alan Alda attributes not only his full recovery from polio to her treatment, but also his being a feminist — because, as he mentioned in the video, a deadly disease that he contracted was successfully combated because men and women were working to fight it.
“You can’t complain when other people have it worse” is a lie that people in power tell because it sets people in bad circumstances up in a competition. It means when we share our stories, we are always quietly fighting for the prize of being the worst off, and getting a tiny scrap of sympathy.
That keeps us from getting together and asking, why are our circumstances so bad and how can we make them better? It means only one person gets to complain and that person does it alone. As opposed to people working in concert to change their lives, to give each other strength and advice and encouragement.
“I think that women don’t become feminists just by calling themselves one. Sarah Palin has probably called herself that, and I don’t think she has the interests of women at heart AT ALL. But I think Beyonce is a feminist because she’s never done or said anything (to my knowledge) that indicates to me that she thinks women should conform to roles that subjugate them. She proudly wears the feminist label and role models that for all her fans, including countless young girls and women. I think that’s powerful stuff. And as a woman of colour, I think it’s pretty troubling for white women to suggest that she can’t define feminism the way that it suits her.”—Clementine Ford
“When I was 12 boys slid their hand up my thigh and slapped my butt. I smiled and took it because I didn’t know it was okay to say stop. I didn’t know that I could say no. So, when the principal calls telling me my daughter is suspended for punching a boy who wouldn’t stop touching her, I will cook her favorite meals. When she tells me how she cursed at the boy who wouldn’t move his hands off her knee even though she asked him to, I will smile and pull out her favorite movie to watch together. I will celebrate the fact that she accepts her body as her own and knows she has the right to say no. I never want my daughter to think her body belongs to men, because it is her own and my god should she be proud. I will teach her it’s more than okay to say stop, something I wish I had known when I was that age.”—don’t be soft, let the world know you exist // 5-26-14 // 9:01AM (via restrictedthoughts)
Some dude: um I think you mean PEOPLE need to stop murdering PEOPLE
A woman: no actually I was talking specifically about violence against women.
Some dude: OMG????!!!!!! YOU THINK MEN DESERVE TO DIE??????!!!!!?!?!?! EVERYONE THIS PERSON IS SAYING VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN IS OKAY????!!!?!?!?!! women are so ILLOGICAL thankfully I am here to REASON WITH YOU, hate breeds hate ok
“Today I was handcuffed and detained by 2 police officers from the Studio City Police Department after refusing to agree that I had done something wrong by showing affection, fully clothed, in a public place.”—Daniele Watts, a Black actress married to a white man. She was detained on suspicion of prostitution, because the cops assumed there’s no other reason a white man would be kissing a Black woman. Although it’s illegal in California to buy the services of a prostitute, nobody handcuffed her white husband. Now fucking tell me that we live in a post-racial society, OK? Just fucking try. (via mslorelei)
Black girls with natural hair get made fun of and black girls with fake hair get made fun of and black girls with no hair get made fun of so like what are black girls supposed to do but not give a fuck abt u
tbh i think straight girls appreciate girls more than straight boys do
we’re the ones that have sex with them so i think that’s unlikely
1. Straight men are not the only people having sex with women 2. I got some fascinating news to tell you about the disappointing nature of most straight men in bed 3. Fucking women doesn’t mean you appreciate them as people, not in the slightest
Horror stories about Muslim misogyny have long been used by western patriarchs to justify imperialism abroad and sexism at home. The Guardian’s Katharine Viner reminds us about Lord Cromer, the British consul general in Egypt from 1883. Cromer believed the Egyptians were morally and culturally inferior in their treatment of women and that they should be “persuaded or forced” to become “civilised” by disposing of the veil.
"And what did this forward-thinking, feminist-sounding veil-burner do when he got home to Britain?" asks Viner. "He founded and presided over the Men’s League for Opposing Women’s Suffrage, which tried, by any means possible, to stop women getting the vote. Colonial patriarchs like Cromer … wanted merely to replace eastern misogyny with western misogyny." More than a century later, the same logic is used to imply that misogyny only matters when it isn’t being done by white men.
“Loneliness does not come from having no people around one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”—Carl Jung (via psych-facts)
Except you can’t show a topless woman on TV - and you can’t defibrillate a woman in a bra. So victims of heart attacks on TV are always male. Did you know that a woman having a heart attack is more likely to have back or jaw pain than chest or left arm pain? I didn’t - because I’ve never seen a woman having a heart attack. I’ve been trained in CPR and Advanced First Aid by the Red Cross over 15 times in my life, the videos and booklets always have a guy and say the same thing about clutching his chest and/or bicep.
And people laugh when I tell them women are still invisible in this world.
When we ask [men] if they would like to be treated like the women in porn, they say ‘of course not, but that does not mean that those girls don’t, just because YOU wouldn’t like these things to be done to your body doesn’t mean that THEY do not like it’. Because ‘those girls’ are so different then us, than regular human beings…
The fact is that women have been brainwashed to think that enduring pain is an integral part of their duty of performing femininity. Women harm their feet to walk in high heels. Women voluntarily submit themselves to painful surgeries to have bigger breasts. They go through painful waxing procedures. Women are good women when they overcome their pain with a smile.
And now, thanks to porn, girls are seeking advice on the internet about how to give deepthroated blowjobs without puking and how to make anal sex less painful. Men are never expected to do such things.
comment by MissFit on Porn Part 11: The Difference Between Huffing Dong and Flipping Burgers
"men in porn are paid to orgasm, while women are paid to suffer"
Recently here in the comments section, the subject of jury duty at rape trials has come up. One of our readers commented that he voted “not guilty” while sitting on the jury at a rape trial simply because he could.
Another reader called that irresponsible. I imagine at least a 98% of the society would agree with her.
Well, 98% of society has been wrong before.
With this important subject in mind, I make the following pledge as an activist, and as an American that believes fully in the rule of law. Should I be called to sit on a jury for a rape trial, I vow publicly to vote not guilty, even in the face of overwhelming evidence that the charges are true.
If you are sitting on a jury hearing a case of rape, the only way to serve justice is to acquit. Better a rapist would walk the streets than a system that merely mocks justice enslave another innocent man.
A Voice For Men (MRA website) founder Paul Elam would rather see a male rapist walk the street freely than charged for his crime.
He admits that he would never convict a rapist, even one who is unequivocally guilty. He claims it’s because the “system is rigged” (ironically, it is, but not in favor of the victim), but it’s obvious that he would really do this because he doesn’t think rape should be a crime.
“These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’
Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.”—
“Black women have had to develop a larger vision of our society than perhaps any other group. They have had to understand white men, white women, and black men. And they have had to understand themselves. When black women win victories, it is a boost for virtually every segment of society.”—
- Angela Davis, activist, author, educator
Happy 70th birthday to one of my favourite sheroes ever!